Winning is NOT what is really important.
Being "better"/ranked higher is NOT what's really important.
Being the starter or team star is NOT what's really important.

What IS REALLY important is WHO you are and HOW you are in the process of the competition. That is,

LIFTING the level of your teammates' play
Playing FAIR,


Your won/loss record is NOT what’s really important.
Championships won are NOT what’s really important.
“Your” athletes who go on to play D-1 or make it to the pros are NOT what’s really important. 

What IS really important is WHO you are, HOW you conduct yourself with your players on a daily basis and the kinds of RELATIONSHIPS that you develop with each and every one of your athletes.

That is, what’s REALLY important as a coach is...


Your child’s PLAYING TIME is NOT what’s really important.
Whether your child WINS or LOSES is NOT what’s really important.
YOUR goals for your child’s sport are NOT what’s really important!
That college scholarship, especially if YOU are driving it, is NOT what's really important!
Insisting that your child listen to you and carefully follow your “extra” coaching instructions is DEFINITELY NOT what’s really important...


This is probably the most common question that I get asked by athletes across every sport. "In practice, I'm relaxed, focused and everything seems to...


The SETTING: A 12 and under youth hockey game

The TEAMS: Team A - Smaller, 10 & 11 year olds vs.
                    Team B - Bigger, 12 year olds
The PLOT: Team A is beating a bigger Team B, 3 -1

ACTION: Team B, as they fall behind, begins to play extremely physical, and dirty, checking from behind, slamming kids into the boards after the whistle, making lewd comments and clearly going after the opposing players, NOT the puck!

The REFS...


The heart of being a great coach lies in the relationships that you create and develop with each and every one of your athletes. RELATIONSHIPS MOTIVATE. It's WHO you are and HOW you are with your players that dramatically affects their love of the game, how hard they work, how much they learn from you and ultimately, how well they perform for you. 

If you are trustworthy in your dealings with your athletes, fair and honest, if you "walk the talk" with them and are consistent with...



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