Athletes mentally and emotionally out of control and spiraling down the toilet fast: You see it all the time. He strikes out and immediately let's his displeasure be known. He slams his bat down into the dirt, hangs his head and puts a puss on as he walks back to the dugout. She angrily bangs her racquet against her leg, let's out a "YOU SUCK!" and begins dragging her feet around the court. As his errant shot hooks into the woods, the golfer let's out a loud 4-letter expletive, kicks his bag and drops his shoulders.

What these athletes don't realize...


A lot of parents start off by coaching their own children. This is a very difficult balancing act to pull off. VERY DIFFICULT! I recently was asked a question about this by a coach-father who noticed that he was being much harder on his son than the other players. He also noticed that his boy was no longer having fun playing. He asked, "At what age should a parent  should stop coaching his kid?" Here's my response:  



The following story was recently sent to me. Within it is the heart of successful coaching/teaching. Far too many coaches and teachers completely miss the boat and think that good coaching is all about teaching skills and strategies. Instead, good coaching is about teaching the individual, not the information! Great coaches meet the athlete at his/her model of the world. That is, they take the time to really get to know their athletes and hand tailor their messages so it bests fits the individual. I've always said that the very best coaches...


Why is it that when you tell your friends or the people around you that you’re "going for it" and/or pursuing excellence, they suddenly get all “helpful” and try to protect you from failing and/or getting hurt? Then there are all those other “kind” people who start making fun of you or calling you “nuts” (in a “helpful,”  “caring” way) because you’re foolishly putting all this time into practicing. ...


Your problem isn’t this failure. Your problem is how you react to this failure. To be successful you must learn how to effectively manage your failures and setbacks. Winners react to failures by getting more motivated by them (eventually). Right after a setback a winner, like...


I can't do that! I'm too short to be good! I'm just not fast enough! I'll never be able to do that! Besides, I have exercise-induced asthma. The greatest limitations that you have are not physical, they are MENTAL!   


As an athlete and person, YOU are always limited most by what YOU BELIEVE is possible! 


Performance on and off the playing field is what I call “self-fulfilling.” That is, you always get what you expect...



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