Sports ethicists, coaches voice concerns on prep routs


The game has been over for more than two weeks, but the score lives on.

The perfect awfulness of The Covenant School's 100-0 defeat of Dallas Academy got the losing team on national television, the winning coach...


The following is from an email inquiry. Because I was unable to get my return response to go through, I decided to post the question and my answer here. I have tried to respect confidentiality here but made the assumption that an answer here was better than no answer at all:

My husband keeps humiliating my son when he plays sports during the actual games even though he may be the player making the most baskets, basically the star player. He will yell out stuff like "you might as well stay in the corner if you can't do better." Or should I speak in another language so you will...


He should have been the starting keeper but the coach said he was too inconsistent. He was said to make bad decisions under pressure. He didn't play with enough confidence and was too tentative at times. The coach really didn't think that Colin was good enough to consistently start at the D-I level. Heck, their team wasn't even a high level D-I program. So the coach sent Colin to me to work on his head.

Colin felt like he should've been starting. He understood the coach's concerns. He knew he had lapses of confidence. He realized that there were times that he'd get between the posts...


I was at a soccer coaches conference this weekend and was approached by a mother and team manager. She was concerned that several of the very talented 10 year olds on their now coach-less team wanted to quit playing the game. The club was in the process of trying to locate a new coach and she wanted some advice about how they might keep their players interested enough to stay with the team until the new hire.

Then she told me why the kids wanted to quit the game and why they were looking for a new coach. For approximately a year and a half this group of 8 and 9 year olds were "...



If you have a fear, frustrating or intimidating obstacle, or an overwhelming task in front of you, the eat an elephant strategy is the best way to get yourself successfully to the other side of the problem. That is, by chuking down the problem you're facing into manageable, "bite sized" pieces and then focusing on each piece, one bite at a time you put yourself in the very best position for success. 

Far too many athletes focus on the fear...


Two monks, Tanzan and Ekido were walking along a path early one day on their way to a faraway temple for a weekend retreat. A heavy rain had been falling, making the going slow and treacherous. As they rounded a bend which would then take them to a small bridge spanning a stream, they met a lovely young woman in a silk kimono. The hapless young woman was unable to cross the now raging stream because the small bridge had been washed out by the heavy rain. She was at a loss as to what to do and seeing the two monks, begged them to help her...



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