In Handling Failure/Adversity, Problems in Youth Sports

I struck out with the bases loaded and we lost the game…
I dropped a touchdown pass in the game’s closing minutes and we needed that score…
I missed both my free throws in overtime…

I suck!
I’m totally humiliated. I feel like a complete failure!
I let EVERYONE down.
Some of my teammates made nasty comments and gave me dirty looks.
I disappointed the coach, I just know it!
I want to find a hole that I can crawl into…

You tell me, “It’s only a game!” and “I’m not disappointed in you,” and,
“It’s just for fun.”
Yet you sure seem angry and unhappy, and you were fine before the game.
You haven’t smiled at or talked to me since the game, and that ended 4 hours ago!
I feel like you don’t love me anymore…

I may be able to get over it, if my teammates are angry at me…
My coach’s disappointment and stern looks will be much tougher…
BUT, I’m only 11 years old and I can’t bear YOU being upset with me…
There’s nothing worse in my world than the feeling that I let you down…
I worship you…I adore you…I desperately need your love and approval…

PLEASE help me keep my game in perspective…
I’m already dying inside as it is…
PLEASE smile at me and talk to me…
Tell me with your words and your BEHAVIORS that I’m OK, and that I’ll be OK!
And I’m really not so sure of that right now…
PLEASE mom and dad!!!!
I didn’t fail on purpose!
Don’t take away your love just because I messed up

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